Quote By @Caduceus:
The sub serves the dom because they want to, not because they have to.
These are my feelings on the matter also. I don't think there is anything
wrong with a bit of D/s play, a sub calling the dominant person 'master', 'sir', ect, nor the sub doing as they're told for the dom also, as long as both of them are okay with it, and there is a safe word or something that lets both parties know when things are going too far.
I do however think that this should go alongside a loving, trusting relationship to work best, because behind all the play, there is, deep down, care there, and the knowledge for both people that the submissive partner would never truly be in any danger. Some people's roleplay goes further than others, but at the end of the day as long as both parties are enjoying it/aren't doing it because they're forced to, I don't have a single issue with it.
Quote By shykitten:
Ive been someones "pet" before a few times. its.....sortof an abusive thing now that i think about it.
I disagree; I think it can be a very loving thing. My boyfriend and I have done it many times (in the bedroom mind, not every day, all day.) However, I did read the rest of your post and I understand that if you associate that kind of roleplay with sexual abuse, then there is no wonder it does not at all appeal to you.
Quote By ZombieMama:
I am at my best when I am submitting myself to someone else... I have had vanilla relationships too, and those just don't work for me. I always feel like something is missing and try to submit quietly.
I am the same. I'm not at all a naturally dominant person; I can take charge in some things, but definitely not in the bedroom. I'd much rather submit there, and it can make it difficult sometimes, because I had a boyfriend in the past who could not understand why I wanted to feel like I was being 'owned' and 'protected' by wearing a collar or other such. I could see in one way his reasoning, but the relationship had to end because we couldn't come to an agreement that met even halfway, causing unhappiness for us both. ^_^;