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#1 :: August 5th, 2011 @ 10:03 PM

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Okay, so I'll try to make this short, but explain it as well as I can.

Alright, so I recently got together with my current boyfriend Taylor, and so far, we're both super happy and everything's going great for us two, expect we have an awkward little situation among us. His friend Blake (who I haven't truly met in real life) was searching through Taylor's phone, and somehow ran across a picture of me.
Immediately Taylor could tell Blake was crushing over me, as he started asking Blake to immediately send me photos of himself and kept asking for my number.

Confused and not wanting to tell Blake about us to hurt his friends feelings or anything (which I completely understood), Taylor sent me his buddy's photo to appease him, and then asked me via text if it was fine to give Blake my number. At first I denied it, but after my boyfriend said Blake kept bothering him about me, I felt bad for him, and decided for him to just give him my number.

At first Blake was just casual like a friend, but now he's saying all of these crazy, creepy things, like "Looking at your pic makes me hard, you're sexy, baby doll, ect." and now he's asking me to kiss him and stuff, even though I've told him I happily have a boyfriend already, not wanting to say Taylor's name to hurt Blake's feelings. But he's being rather persistent, like "Don't worry, he never has to know.

" and such, and I feel like if he keeps being like this, even though I keep politely saying "No, I'm dating someone else.", that he will probably tear his and Taylor's friendship apart, and my relationship with Taylor, which would be terrible!

I'm stumped and need help, I hate being rude and brutally honest to people, but I'm getting buried in confusion and awkwardness.
What should I do?

#2 :: August 5th, 2011 @ 10:09 PM

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Well that's not creepy at all... >.> Maybe you should tell Taylor about this? Or flat out tell Blake that your boyfriend IS Taylor. Maybe that will get him to stop.

#3 :: August 6th, 2011 @ 12:13 AM

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I agree with User not found (1): halo_maniac_117. Just, tell him that your boyfriend is Taylor. There is no point in lying about it to Taylor's friend. In fact, if Blake was truly Taylor's friend, then he should understand. Maybe he'll leave ya alone once he finds out that he is crushing with his friend's gf. Or at least, tell Taylor about what is going on.

Don't worry about messing up their friendship. That is something that they would have to decide on. It isn't fair that you have to go through all of this to hide who your real boyfriend is.

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#4 :: August 6th, 2011 @ 1:05 AM

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@Voldemlex this issue is ridiculous. Just tell him who your bf is.

#5 :: August 6th, 2011 @ 1:06 AM

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@halo_maniac_177 Yeah, Taylor told me his friend was a little odd, but I was never expecting this!

And that's kind of what I was thinking on doing, thanks. <3 I think I'm gonna tell Taylor what's up, he's pretty smart, so he'll help fix this!
Thanks for your help!

#6 :: August 6th, 2011 @ 3:13 AM

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@Voldemlex I agree with all of them. Just tell Taylor and it should all work itself out!

#7 :: August 6th, 2011 @ 12:13 PM

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What I am wondering about in the first place is: why didn't Taylor just say "dude, that's my girlfriend" when Blake first found your photo and nagged about your phone number? Why would he be afraid of hurting him?

And yes, tell your boyfriend that his friend is bothering you. If he were to see the messages, he will most likely be pissed at the friend for acting this way.

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#8 :: August 6th, 2011 @ 2:34 PM

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I have to agree with User not found (1): nilfy... this whole problem could have been avoided if in the first place he just said "hey that's my girlfriend, get over it". It's not like Blake actually knows you so if Taylor had just admitted that he was dating you, Blake probably would have backed off. He's being so persistent with texting because he may think you're messing around with him since you won't tell him who your boyfriend is.

Tell your boyfriend about Blake. He doesn't have much of a right to be pissed though, he should have told him that he was dating you so that Blake didn't get some weird sense of false hope. His texts are effing creepy though, I'd consider blocking his number if he keeps texting you crap that you don't feel comfortable with.

#9 :: August 8th, 2011 @ 4:54 PM

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@Voldemlex if your boyfriend isn't telling his friends who his girlfriend is and letting his friend text you that crap and going along with it I'd question how good of a boyfriend he really is. just sayin.

personally idgaf if bambi's father asked my bf who's the pic of and if he can text me, my bf best be tellin them I'm his gf.

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