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#1 :: January 31st, 2012 @ 10:25 PM

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1:51 Somewhere in there it has a story of this guy who saw these pics of this underaged girl with nothing on by accident. Now what i want to know is..what would you do if you saw these by accident? would you call the police to arrest the girl(or what charges that goes for them), sit down with her and tell her why its wrong to have them, or is there something else you would do? If so what?

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#2 :: February 1st, 2012 @ 1:23 PM

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I would probably give her a heads up that they could get her or whoever she sent them to into legal trouble, and that she should be careful about who she trusts. Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with younger girls or guys to take or send nudes as long as its by choice and not because of pressure.

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#3 :: February 1st, 2012 @ 1:50 PM

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Quote By @You_Tell_Me:

Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with younger girls or guys to take or send nudes as long as its by choice and not because of pressure.

Being in possession or distributing of pornographic (or even questionable) images of a person under 18 is a crime (even if the person is also under 18 and/or the subject of the photos).

As far as the question, I think it would really depend on the relationship I had with the individual who had the images. Depending on her age, I would be inclined to tell her parents (yeah, I know tattling to parents about this type of thing sucks.. but kids don't really realize how this sort of thing can hurt you later on).

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#4 :: February 1st, 2012 @ 1:55 PM

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"Being in possession or distributing of pornographic (or even questionable) images of a pony under 18 is a crime (even if the pony is also under 18 and/or the subject of the photos)."

@ I realize that, that's why I said I'd warn him/her about it. However, other than the fact that its illegal, I can find nothing wrong with it at all so long as she/he consents.

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#5 :: February 1st, 2012 @ 2:04 PM

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It's because it's dangerous. If this guy saw the pictures by accident then they can't be that hard to find. Not only that but it could hurt you later on when say job searching. That's why people should be really careful what they give out. I think that yes what Reya said is a good idea. The child's parents need to be notified if someone sees a child doing this because the parents are ultimately responsible for what they do and it's there job to protect there children.

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#6 :: February 1st, 2012 @ 2:25 PM

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@talonhawk Thus why I would explain to her the importance of who she sends them to. Totally covered that. Yes, they may surface later in life, but unless they are tied to your name or you're in politics there's not much that will happen with them. Most underaged people take nudes of themselves at one point or another, what matters is what they do with them.

in some cases, it may be best to alert the parents, but in many cases can see that leading to unnecessary harm for the girl/noy, especially in cases where the parents may be verbally or physically abusive.

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#7 :: February 1st, 2012 @ 2:30 PM

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Though that is true but really if I were a parent I would want to know if my child was doing something like that.

And for the record I never did and most of the teens I know didn't either.

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#8 :: February 1st, 2012 @ 2:34 PM

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@talonhawk Its not something most teens would talk about, though I had a lot of girls confide in me that they had, and a lot of boys send them to me, lol. Unless you're in a very open group of friends, like I was, I doubt anybody would tell you about that.

You seem to make the assumption that most parents are against it, but personally mine knew and didn't care. Many parents have learned to accept it as normal development and behavior. Teens will be sexually driven, more so than any other age group, making them feel ashamed of this will only harm their sense of self and self-esteem.

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#9 :: February 2nd, 2012 @ 8:53 PM

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Having worked for a social network site doing image review, and seeing the abuse potential, I have to say it's really a bad idea. If I knew the kid, I'd try to talk to them if I knew them well enough, if not, I would try to find a responsible adult that they trust to talk with them. And it's not a shame issue--it's an abuse issue, and protecting yourself from that.

One of the hardest cases I had to deal with was a member who had posted all sorts of images of their actions, and now those images were coming back to haunt them. Once the image is out there, there is NO way to recall it, no way to know if someone has copied or forwarded it, you are just SOL.

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#10 :: March 18th, 2012 @ 3:11 PM

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Here's what I don't get about this topic: If a high school girl decides to take naked photos of herself and sends the photos to one or multiple people, why do the people who receive the photo get in trouble? A girl sends her photo to a guy, the guy gets in trouble. Whether he has the photos on his phone and shows people, or sends them out, he is at fault.

There were quite a few cases at my high school with girls sending out nudes, then the parents pressing charges on the boyfriend/boys who received, distributed, or showed other people the photos. There was one girl in particular who was VERY bad about this. She sent several different naked photos to many boys at school (many of which she was not dating). Naturally, the photos floated around the school and everyone knew about them. The boys who distributed the photos got in trouble. I don't know if they had charges pressed against them or not. Why didn't the girl who sent MANY, MANY nudes to MANY guys get in trouble? She deliberately posed naked in front of her camera and deliberately sent the photos out.

Another thing that happened at my school was when a girl took a video of herself masturbating, then sent it to the wrong guy. Naturally, this guy showed his friends. The girl tried to get her parents involved and tried to get the guy in trouble, but he had already deleted it so there wasn't anything they could do. Now... Why was the guy being pursued for illegal actions here? He was not the one who took the video and sent it out. He merely received it, then showed his friends.

I just don't understand how this situation works. If you're stupid enough to send naked pictures to another person, then you should face the consequences. Now, if you were forced to take pictures or videos, then it makes sense the person who forced you should be charged with criminal activity.

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#11 :: March 18th, 2012 @ 6:48 PM

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if i were to come across something like that accidentally i wouldnt tell anyone.

america jails their own parents for taking pictures of their naked babies. they jail girls who take pictures of themselves.

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#12 :: March 19th, 2012 @ 2:37 AM

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Ehn, most girls around here and that I know of take them. Not many faces the ~horrorz~ of having them leaked, and those who do don't become destroyed versions of themselves. Embarrassing? Yes. End of the world? Maybe not so much.

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#13 :: March 19th, 2012 @ 3:02 AM

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@ If the legal system wasn't hilariously incompetent, then neither the guys distributing the photos nor the guy who had mistakenly seen the video will have charges succeed against them. Well, okay, in the first instance it can actually go either way.

@ Everyone: Interestingly, the person most at fault (legally speaking) is whoever took the photos. The girl (or guy) who creates the images/vids is actually considered more in the wrong than the recipients or anyone who shares the content.

In the United States, a minor taking sexually explicit (simply nude does not count -- they must be sexually explicit) photos of themselves is guilty of actually producing child pornography, whilst the recipient (if they keep or spread the images) is guilty of the distribution of child pornography. The former offense is more serious than the latter.

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#14 :: March 20th, 2012 @ 5:51 AM

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i would wonder wtf their parents are doing lol.

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#15 :: April 30th, 2012 @ 5:32 PM

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I know this one girl, she goes to my school. She is dating someone in another state, she sees him occasionally, when ever he can drive out to see her and such. But they mainly text each other, the girl and her boyfriend share pictures occasionally. Now, I don't know if the boy shows them off to friends, or if the girl shows the guys off to friends, but I don't really see a huge problem in it.

#16 :: May 4th, 2012 @ 1:38 PM

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Personally, I would go with the "harsher" option and report the girl. I just had a rant about this the other day. And to be honest, I feel like the only one who actually has an issue with this. More often than not, under age girls take nude photos of themselves. Not only do they just take them for a specific person or "just because," but they post them on the internet. I really don't know what they're thinking and it truly disgusts me. Believe it or not, just simply speaking to them won't get you anywhere. It'll just go in one ear and out the other. I wouldn't really care for taking the issue to their parents either. They most likely hadn't have done a good job raising their children in the first place. I'm not categorizing all parents with that being said. But from experience, most of the kids I know of who have done stuff like this, their parents aren't all there.

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#17 :: May 4th, 2012 @ 7:24 PM

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I'd warn her. I'd let her know that if it weren't for someone like me to tell her to stop she could get the message in a harsher and more scarring way. I'd try to scare her straight. And if that didn't work I'd go and talk to her parents, with my mom there to be a referee type figure to help me if the two decide to lash out at me. And if that didn't work, I'd go to the police. There I'd tell the girl that she had her chance to try and listen to me but she obviously didn't take it.

Its stupid to think that some girls do this. I haven't had this exact experience with someone I know but I think I'm coming close to being in one. One of my cousins is acting strange. She used to be super sweet as a kid but I haven't seen her in a while and now that she's a Facebook friend she's acting like somebody I don't know. My cousin is posting pictures of herself on Facebook flipping the camera off. She's posted pictures of people having sex and she's using bad grammar in her posts. Like super bad grammar. I'm disappointed in her, because really? What college will she be accepted to when they see her acting like a nut. Colleges look at peoples profiles and possibly are looking at mine or hers. If so then they will wonder why I'm her friend but not acting like her. I'm pretty sure that if she doesn't stop, then this is whats going to be next and its really upsetting.

#18 :: May 6th, 2012 @ 6:42 AM

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If someone decides to take nude / sexually explicit photos of themselves, then I believe it's their choice; and neither those who took the photos, nor those who received them should be punished. I don't care what our current laws say about this, because I just can't care about things that seem dumb and pointless to me. Child pornography they say. Child pornography my ass, 16 year old girls sending pics of their tits to everybody in their school are attention hoes, not pornodealers.

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#19 :: May 29th, 2012 @ 12:09 PM

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i would wonder wtf their parents are doing lol.

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#20 :: May 29th, 2012 @ 1:54 PM

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I don't think nudes are particularly a big deal, and pretty much agree with @You_Tell_Me (I hope you don't mind the ping). Young girls or boys should understand that they should be cautious about who they send pictures to, and how they take them, but if someone trusts another person and wants to do it, so be it. I do have lots of problems with people leaking nudes of others. That's a very vile thing to do, and the victim blaming behind a lot of sexting scenarios is despicable in my opinion.

#21 :: May 29th, 2012 @ 6:00 PM

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I've always kind of felt that it was stupid to charge kids for stupid kid stuff like passing around some nudes. If a girl decides to take the photos of herself and send them to someone else then it's her choice, not child pornography. If the person who gets the photos decides to show them to their friends or pass them around the school then the girl who took them is already going to be punished by embarrassment for her lack of judgement. I don't see the point of pitting the law against her (though the guys/girls who tossed it around might need a stern talking to about showing those kinds of photos without the taker's consent). Nowadays everything a child does in the United States is being turned into a crime. If a kid throws a paper plane at another kid, it's assault. If a girl takes a picture of her chest and sends it to her boyfriend, it's the production and distribution of child porn. Laws are made to protect people and bring order to chaos, not to throw kids in jail for being stupid.

As for the scenario the OP mentioned, I would honestly not do a single thing because I wouldn't even care. It's none of my business what the teenie boppers are doing as long as they aren't hurting anyone.

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#22 :: May 29th, 2012 @ 11:06 PM

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I probably wouldn't do anything.
However, I think kiddies passing around nudes is really destructive behavior. Since sexting seems to be a semi-recent thing, it makes me wonder how the kids are going to turn out.
And if their nudes go leaked, it's their own fault. A 13 year old girl should know better than to send a picture of her tits to a 13 year old boy. Like, what the love do you THINK he's going to do with them? Send it around to all his dumb little friends hurrdurr

I don't think anyone of any age can be extremely trusted when it comes to something like nudes. All it takes is one fight/misunderstanding/drunken night and your pictures are online and no amount of remorse could ever take it back.

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#23 :: May 30th, 2012 @ 2:59 AM

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There's a lot of person of questionable reputation-shaming and body-policing going on here. Just because someone shows their body to someone doesn't make them a bad person. I don't think it's a wise decision for teenage girls to send pictures of themselves to other teenage boys, but that's simply because sometimes teenage boys don't act as mature as they should. But it's entirely their choice if they want to do that. and the parents are not always to blame in this. my mom raised all of her kids strict; we all got our asses whipped. but my sister is 15 and i was going through her phone and saw some risque photos of her. i told my mom, and we talked about it and decided that we weren't going to tell her that we saw them. since it would start a lot of unnecessary drama in the family. the best thing for her to do is to figure out for herself how things are; learn the hard way, if you will. That's her choice and she'll have to deal with the consequences, whether good or bad. But i'm not going to shame her for being in control of her body. It's not dumb to do that; it doesn't make her an "attention hoe"; and i'm not disappointed in her.

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