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#1 :: June 10th, 2012 @ 6:23 AM

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if someone cheats with someone else, does it matter if was a boy or a girl who cheated? I thought it might be harder for girls but my one friend said it was the opposite. Your thoughts? or do you think its equal either way?

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#2 :: June 10th, 2012 @ 6:29 AM

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For me it's equal - it's the fact that they cheated, their gender doesn't matter.
I think girls are less likely to have a one nighter though.

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#3 :: June 10th, 2012 @ 6:34 AM

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double standards in a way that... if it was a guy, then he's a playboy and it is more common so it's like "oh well, it was bound to happen. unlike if it was a girl, they'd be like... "omg, what a person of questionable reputation". But that was like way way before... I think it's got something to do with how people used to (a few probably still do) see the diff. genders. but imo, it shouldn't matter whether the person who cheated was a boy or a girl. Bottomline, they cheated.

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#4 :: June 10th, 2012 @ 1:18 PM

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I don't think it matters. If they cheated, they cheated, regardless of sex or gender.

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#5 :: June 10th, 2012 @ 3:39 PM

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I honestly don't think it matters. Who is hurt more would probably have to do with who is more emotionally invested in the relationship- it really has nothing to do with a person's gender.

I've been cheated on and it was devastating for me, not because I'm a girl and girls are emotional, but because I REALLY really was invested in this guy and liked him a lot. But I've seen it on the other side where I knew a guy who had been dating his girlfriend for upwards of 2 years. She cheated, and he seriously didn't get over it for years to come because he wanted her so badly. It's terrible but yeah... gender has nothing to do with it.

But if you're saying it's "harder" for girls to cheat because they'll be called names then well... I guess. When I was cheated on everyone told me "well, we told you he was a player you should have listened!!" like it was my fault he promised me the world then cheated. But I guarantee that if it was ME who cheated on him my friends would have been like "well that's kind of person of questionable reputationty why would you do that to him wtf". I guess do come with a double standard sometimes.

#6 :: June 10th, 2012 @ 4:15 PM

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I think cheating is a bunch of bs, truthfully. If you can't be faithful in a relationship, then get the hell out of it and don't hurt your significant other because you can't control yourself.
Cheating is something I can not tolerate. I was taught "once a cheater, always a cheater" and at least for the people I've known that have cheated, it's held true. I suppose wherever gender is concerned there's always someone who believe in a double-standard, but I don't. Cheating really has nothing to do with gender, in my opinion. Cheating is cheating is cheating, and it sucks.

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#7 :: June 10th, 2012 @ 4:40 PM

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Gender doesn't have anything to do with it.
Cheating is cheating, and that's really it. People's reactions to cheating are determined on a variety of factors -- their personality, how long they were in the relationship, etc. Gender doesn't really determine those things.
Besides, there are plenty of non-straight couples. Saying that gender has anything to do with it would be to imply that it's inherently harder for a lesbian to be cheated on than it is for a gay man, or vice versa depending on which side you pick. Which is ridiculously dumb.

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#8 :: June 10th, 2012 @ 8:22 PM

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There's several double standards when it comes to cheating for the majority of society. For example men are more "expected" to cheat, no one is surprised to hear a husband supposedly cheated on his wife(even if such a rumor is proved not to be true people will often claimed if not with that person that he's cheated with someone else and just hasn't been caught on it) and women are thought of as more likely to be faithful, which is ridiculous. Faithfulness isn't determined by gender, it is determined by the character of a person. Another one is that when a woman cheats people will more likely call her a person of questionable reputation or whore or other names they wouldn't call a cheating man. Also sometimes when a man cheats it is view as the woman's fault. They claim that she was "doing her job" in the bedroom and therefore they think they have the "right" to cheat. However if a woman makes the same argument she is still viewed as a person of questionable reputation. It's really stupid.

For me it doesn't matter what gender you are, cheating is cheating and you shouldn't do it. If you're unhappy with a relationship you need to either fix your relationship or get out of it. Being unfaithful when you know the relationship is an exclusive one is selfish and helps no one,

#9 :: June 11th, 2012 @ 2:57 AM

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Cheating is cheating - it doesn't differentiate between ovaries and testicles.

If you're in a relationship and you or the other person cheats, then there is something drastically wrong. The thing is to get out BEFORE you cheat, as wanting to cheat is a symptom, not a solution. No matter how much you love someone, or how much the relationship is right, it's a sign that something isn't right, something hasn't been acknowledged or you simply don't want to be committed to the other person.

I've known people in relationships where people have cheated, and believe me, neither the man or woman is worse or better than the other. They're both viewed equally as bad.

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#10 :: October 6th, 2012 @ 1:59 PM

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It doesn't matter. Cheating is cheating, whether it's male or female, physically or emotionally. Neither party is better nor worse than the other.

#11 :: October 9th, 2012 @ 2:18 AM

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I'm going to echo everyone else and say that gender doesn't matter. I was in a very serious relationship a few years ago and she ended up cheating on me. After six years together you would think she would have respected me enough to break it off with me instead of cheating. I was extremely devastated after it happened. There is absolutely no excuse for cheating. None.

If you're talking about double standards when it comes to cheating, then yes there are differences. Men are generally congratulated while women are treated poorly.

#12 :: October 13th, 2012 @ 12:41 AM

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I also agree - gender or sex doesn't matter. Cheating is cheating - no ifs, ands or buts.

In particular in the Kristen Stewart case, Stewart has been focused on much more by media than the male cheat-ee, Rupert Sanders; but I believe that is primarily due to all the "Twilight" hype. nevertheless, she is a sod for cheating in the first place - and so is he!

#13 :: October 17th, 2012 @ 9:25 PM

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Here's something really sad and infuriating that my teacher, who was in Swaziland this summer, saw on a billboard:

"I cheated because he did." Now, Lisa has AIDS.

Swaziland is a polygamist society, but this is almost misogynistic, beyond patriarchal.
Unfortunately, I couldn't find it on the internet.

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#14 :: October 19th, 2012 @ 11:29 AM

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cheating is cheating regardless of gender.

#15 :: October 28th, 2012 @ 9:58 PM

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@ I think cheating is unacceptable in any given circumstance. Its just plain wrong. :c

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#16 :: November 5th, 2012 @ 8:30 PM

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Doesn't matter what the gender; cheating is cheating.
Some people can make it seem sympathetic or worse depending on the situation or how they go about it, but it's still cheating no matter how you look at it.